Talking About Senior Living with Loved Ones.

Writing down observations in a journal helps keep track of needs and helps in determining what lifestyle and services are best. Written notes also ensure you cover everything you want to cover.

Get input from the primary physician. Chances are, your loved one trusts their doctor and may have even given the doc insights they haven’t shared with you. Compare thoughts, impressions, observations and concerns. Create a plan (and/or talking points) together. A bonus: A doctor’s input often makes it easier to accept change.

If possible, sit down with your loved one and together make a list of current wants and needs. Then, determine how to best meet them. If appropriate, ask other family members to participate as you consider the options.

Siblings and other family members who have a vested interest in your loved one’s well-being should be included in the conversation and in the decision-making process.

Convey concerns for their safety and well-being. Be sure to also listen to any concerns your loved one has about moving.

Emphasize how retirement and senior living have changed (for the better) over the years to fit the needs and wants of today’s seniors.

Start the conversation about what your loved one needs and desires in retirement living now. Waiting until there is a crisis makes tough decisions very stressful and more difficult.

Consider location, community type, services, amenities, levels of care, quality of care and your family’s finances. Schedule community tours to help determine preferences and needs.